The Illusion of Importance

Why is it that we often get so caught up in titles? RN, MBA, Col., JD, PhD, VP, Sgt., CPA, VIP. What is it about these silly little words that matter so much? They define what we do professionally, or our level of education, or accomplishment, or whatever, but they don't define us as a person.

I've come across people who are hesitant to share their job title out of embarrassment; like they've already made up my mind for me that what they do is insignificant. It seems as though that because they don't have a string of letters chasing their name, they aren't valuable to society.

And it's not only that we allow ourselves to be titled but we embrace it, crave it, want to flaunt it. And I don't get it! It could be that we want so badly in life to feel like we're important. We want to make a difference and be recognized for it. And somehow with a title we feel validated. We create an illusion of importance by giving ourselves titles.

Yet titles are just words! You go from one company to another and the same word that commanded respect in one turns out to be the word for the entry level position in the other. It's so pointless to put so much worth on words.

Good-bye Means I'm Glad You're Gone (p)

Those vapid eyes and rabid lust,
How could I thought to ever trust
A man with words but actions none
Wish I could say that it's been fun.

Manipulation’s an ancient game
Coincidence is, it’s your middle name!
You hide deceit with a charming smile
And ask for me to stay a while.

But I’ve learned my lesson, a time or two
And this is what I know is true:
To stay is pain, to love, insane;
Investing in you will yield no gain.

You can't hurt me if I no longer care
And I think that I am finally there.
So you can call me, write me, insult away
But you are less to me than a forgotten day.

Can a Girl Get a Date?

Why is it when you send your RSVP with a +1 that it's so hard to find a date? I mean it's easy to find them when there is no reservation required. But for some reason, once you commit to bringing someone other than yourself, that other is nowhere to be found.

It could be me, but like I said, there are plenty of people to hang out with on all these other occasions. It could be the event, but I don't even get that far into the explanation before I'm denied. It could be the timing, October does seem to be a busy month. It could be a million other things that I just don't get.

Maybe its time I admit that it is what it is, and call on my real friends. At least my girlfriends won't get the wrong idea when I invite them...